- “We continue to act like men who don’t show emotions, men who don’t trip over the little things like that nagging feeling that this woman we have is actually the best woman for us. So we stall, continue to act like the individual man instead of the woman’s man, and think, we’ll figure it out later because that’s what real men do. They figure it out. And this is why I say women get frustrated with men too quickly. They already know how to act and what to do. Not all women, but a lot of women, the vast majority I have met, were taught about love a long time ago, so when they feel it, they know how to act.”
Well I am the woman that doesn’t know…. (At least all the time) how to act. I came from a great family but, like all families there were some issues. I carried those and other male relationships around with me as a negative. Until a met this man that changed my world in college and then we broke up… only to find each other a second time around 5 years later. Different lives, different places, different experiences, and different people with one goal… LOVE! I still loved him and he still loved me! He has been married and divorced and I have been burned so allot of our issues come from past experiences and pointing fingers. Well, at this point I have as you said Jozen done just about everything on this post except walk away. Yet, I don’t agree that this is the best thing to do especially because its giving the impression that it’s okay to give up…. you can’t give up a job you don’t like, or not pursuing and education just because. Life is hard and love takes work, you can leave one only to go into a worse situation with someone else. Foundation and communication can get you through allot. You would have never loved that person if things were so bad in the first place. So, what caused this change in behavior…him…her…past? I think you must try to understand a person and just like marrying a woman with kids you are accepting the issues and responsibility of it all. Same thing with ex’s and divorcee’s. One can’t try and the other not or the bulk of the stress will on one side.